Society sets us up to believe that this only happens for women. But the truth is that men can also struggle with desire. If you’ve been feeling like your husband isn’t interested in you sexually, here are things that might be going on and what to do about it. Sexual challenges are normal. We don’t see this in the media, and people aren’t generally talking about their sexual issues, so we don’t realize how common it is to struggle with sex. And when sex gets difficult, when there’s a chance we can “fail,” when we might end up feeling broken or inadequate, we tend to avoid it. The fact that your husband avoids sex now is most likely rooted in these types of negative consequences. It’s also common to believe that nothing can revitalize a dreary sex life, that a sexless relationship is hopeless. Many people worry that the lack of sex means their relationship is doomed or that they are facing the rest of their life or marriage without intimacy. But you can work together to understand what’s been happening and to create a sex life that is actually easy and fun for both of you. RELATED: Can A Marriage Survive Without Intimacy? RELATED: How Often Married Couples Have Sex (Per Week & By Age) Challenges in the bedroom create an opportunity—to get closer, to get creative, and to let go of old ways of thinking. You may find your relationship is stronger than ever once the two of you tackle whatever turns out to be in your way.