So what’s the “how” that makes the difference? Simple: an authentic connection to oneself. Unfortunately, most people don’t take the time to get to know themselves. It’s hard work, no doubt, but avoiding this journey automatically creates disconnection in your life—not only from yourself but from others, too. To develop more inner connection, start with a journal practice, writing down your thoughts and feelings. Answer questions such as Who am I? What do I want? What is important to me? From there, you’ll be on your way to knowing yourself in a deeper way. By creating an inner connection to yourself, you’ll exude an energy of “being connected,” which will always inspire others to want to connect with you, too. That said, many people want others to be attracted to them because they don’t feel that great about themselves. They think the answer to feeling good comes from someone shower them with love. Or, even worse, they think the answer is having their insecurities validated by an unavailable partner. To feel and embody attractiveness, you have to care for yourself, love yourself, and trust yourself. The best way to tap into your natural self-love is through spiritual practice, such as yoga or meditation. Daily practices that help you connect to the present moment, without all the baggage of your mind, will also connect you to the inherent goodness of your being. Here are a few ways to practice self-love, plus how to love your body if you’re not quite there yet. Remember, attractiveness reflects how you feel about yourself. If you mold or change yourself for others, it means deep down, you doubt that you’re actually worthy as you are (even if this is unconscious). And if you doubt your worth, you can’t inspire strong feelings of attraction in other people. By saying “F— it,” and “I’m ready to pave the path for my own journey!” you’re claiming yourself in a powerful way. You’re giving supreme importance to who you are, and this, of course, commands respect from others. Self-possession makes others want to take a stand for you, too. A common misconception is that people who are highly attractive don’t have insecurities. This couldn’t be further from the truth. If you’re human, you doubt yourself from time to time—and that’s only natural. What sets attractive people apart is how they deal with their insecurities. People who are highly attractive don’t resist their insecurities or condemn themselves for their flaws; instead, they turn toward their insecurities and embrace them. They accept them. Why does this make people more attractive? Claiming all parts of yourself—including the flaws and “unattractive” parts—is the ultimate act of self-love. By embracing all of who you are, you naturally inspire others to embrace all of you, too. If you’re new to this kind of practice, the best way to embrace your insecurities is by speaking kindly to yourself whenever you get triggered. “Oh, my fear of abandonment is here again. I feel really scared right now.” By staying with yourself during your fears, they’ll dissolve more quickly, and you’ll be more confident and able to handle anything that comes your way. When you appreciate yourself and embrace all of who you are, you will inspire others to treat you with the same qualities, too. Now that’s what becoming highly attractive is all about.
